One of the scariest, most challenging things in the entire world is losing someone you’re close to - having someone you never thought would leave - turn right around and walk away from you.
So many people I know have closed themselves off to their friends the second they begin a new relationship. Yes, I agree that there is absolutely nothing better than finding that person that makes everything else disappear. But just because you have them, doesn’t mean that you cut everyone else out of your life. The relationships that work out are the ones where people aren’t dependant on each other every second of every day.
When you find someone, you should share your world with them, not make them your world. I don’t understand how people can drop their friends the second that they start dating someone else. Your friends and family are the ones who have always been there for you, and they’re the ones who have had your back. Why would you ever give that up?
There are so many different things that make me happy, music, running, writing, and family, to give a few examples. What about you? How many things have you sacrificed for someone else? Having a well rounded life makes everything so much better. You need friends who you can laugh with, family that will never let you go, and you shouldn’t ever alter your life to fit into someone else’s life. You should take the best from every situation you’re in, and make it your life.
Not only is having a well rounded life healthy, you also need to do it to protect yourself. When you make someone else your everything, you are giving them the power to take everything you have away from you if they decide to leave. There are so many things in life that you should take advantage of, living your life to the fullest shouldn’t stop just because you found someone, and you should instead live life to the fullest with them.
Also, you’re going to get sick of that person. You’re going to fight with them if you’re with them all the time, and you won’t enjoy the time you share with them as much. Make the time you have special, and it isn’t special if all you do is spend time with them. You start to take it for granted, which is the last thing you want to happen.
So next time you think about missing a girl’s night or a guy’s night, realize that those friends are the ones who you’ve had all your life. The person you’re with likes you for you – and part of who you are is all of those things you love to do that don’t involve them. So don’t lose yourself for someone else.
“You can't make any one person your world. The trick is to take what each can give you and build your world from it”- Sarah Dessen.
love this! you would make the title from little mermaid hahaha!
ReplyDeletei love this post, it's so true! insanely true, actually. one of the most important things in life is to have balance. and i'll admit, this is something i struggle with time to time.
ReplyDeletein order to have a well rounded life, you need different layers - time with your friends, time with your family, time with your boyfriend. you need date nights, family board games, watch friend's and sister's sports games, slushie runs.
i try my very hardest to fit in everything, and i think, considering all that i manage to do, i do a pretty good job at it. although it's a pain to constantly schedule, and it can get chaotic always going everywhere, i think it's worth it. being with the important people in my life brings me happiness.
this post is amazing, and so true. i love reading your blog entries, i can almost always relate to them. so thank you! :)