Monday, February 21, 2011

I get by with a little help from my friends

It's the easiest thing in the world to give up. It's so easy to let a friendship fall apart, and it's so easy for distance and time to affect everything you used to know. High school is a time in your life when people walk in and out of your life with ease; everyone is changing and growing and not all people change and grow in the same ways. Friends move away and the distance can be hard, or they become someone you never thought they would and do things that would shock you. Through the past 4 years I've learned a lot. I've lost a lot of people in my life, and people you never thought would leave, do.

Through all the bullshit and all the pain, through every bad fight and every boy that threatened friendships, I'm so lucky. I have the greatest friends in the world, I have people I can trust with my life and I know they won't leave. How many people can say that? I think we spend so much time trying to find ourselves that sometimes we lose track of the amazing people in our lives that help hold us together. Sometimes people change in ways you can't understand, and sometimes friendships fall apart - but that doesn't mean that they can't be fixed. The greatest friendships are the ones you work for, the ones that you don't give up on no matter what happens. I've found out which people that I can count on and I couldn't be happier. Your friends shape who you are, they help you through the toughest of times, and they are the ones who make you strong when you want to be weak. 
It's so scary to me that in 6 months my entire world is going to change, but I'm so thankful that I will have the greatest people in the world no matter what happens next.

7 comments:

  1. I looooved reading this!
    High school can be such a tough time especially involving choosing your friends, and it really sucks when you lose them, but the ones who are meant to be in your life will stay.
    Trust is an incredibly huge issue also
    loved it (:

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  2. dear shantasticcc.
    you're amazing:)
    and i'm always here for you.
    and i love when we talk for hours :) its great:)
    friends are a huge part of our lives, and they effect us in a huge way. If we have good friends, being happy its way easier :)

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  3. omg, that's so cute :P
    it is scary to think that at the end of June everything will change, and everyone will be going their separate ways. It is very intimidating :|

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  4. Over the past 5 years I have had a lot of friendship problems. I've had my ups and downs with people here, but I have also had some problems with people who go to OD. People who, in gr 8, promised that we would never stop being friends, and that now don't even acknowledge my existence. So in a way I guess its good that we fell apart, and that I now know who my true friends are .

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  5. I get by with a little help from my friends too. It’s interesting how when everything is going well for you, life is good, you can consider those around you, experiencing the fun and the ease to be close friends, yet when something life changing occurs, and suddenly life is no longer fun for a while, and the ease turns to hardship some people suddenly vanish into thin air. The one’s who you considered to be the best of friends, suddenly don’t have what it takes to stand by you as you always did for them. But, what I find more surprising, is where one find’s support during these times,when let down by the others. Sometimes this support can be found in the most unlikely of places; in coworkers, in friends of friends, in the elderly personalities of a tv series, or even in old or distant friends. Sometimes you find friendship in those who least expected. During a time of desperation, I was surprised to find that my greatest happiness and support came from someone who didn’t even know of my issue. The nature of this person, as a genuinely caring and happy individual got me though the toughest of days, in ways that none of my prior friends could.
    This year I gained a best friend; someone who “makes me happy when skies are grey”. Someone who supports me unconditionally, and sees me more clearly than any friend I’ve ever had. It is this person, with their mature, intelligent, open-minded, caring perspective, who has changed my life, and my understanding of friendship. It is this person, unlike any friend I’ve ever had, who reminds me of and enables neverending hope and possibilities. This person is the truest friend I’ve ever had. This person loves me for my imperfections; doesn’t try to change me. This person encouages my interests; doesn’t insult them.
    Shannon, I am glad that you are sure that you have friends who be there for committedly. I would agree that we are both very lucky.

    Ps. I feel as though the Golden Girls theme song applies:
    Thank you for being a friend
    Traveled down the road and back again
    Your heart is true your a pal and a confidant.
    And if you through a party
    Invited everyone you ever knew
    You would see the biggest gift would be from me
    And the card attached would say thank you for being a friend.

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  6. a true friend walks in, when the rest of the world walks out..

    i love my friends :)

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  7. I think that your best friends are the ones who help YOU improve, a friend that cares about whatever problem regardless of how big or small that you need help with and you help them as well, friendship cant be all about one friend all the time. finding friends like that is the hardest thing to do, good job with this

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